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Existential Homemaking: Cleaning Co-Regulation Calls

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Alyssa Allegretti
Jul 29, 2025
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Let the dishes wait…for me to clean them later?

Doing Dishes at the Beach", July 19, 1952' Giclee Print - Stevan Dohanos |  Art.com
Artist: Steven Dahanos

During our Mother’s Day edition of Existential Homemaking: Cleaning Co-Regulation Calls, we discussed the impossibility of the double bind we face in caretaking roles--especially in the role of mother--when well meaning but tone deaf people tell us to "let the dishes wait" as if this w…

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